What is checked on Elite Mature Mingle, and what isn't

The short version

Photos are checked; people's claims are not. Every image is reviewed, identity checks apply in some cases or when a member pays for a badge, and nothing a member writes about their career, money or relationship status is verified.

Photos: every one is reviewed

Every image uploaded to a profile is reviewed. Photos that break the image policy, which bans nudity and lingerie, are not published. At least one profile photo is normally required.

A review is not the same as proof. It tells you a photo meets the rules; it cannot tell you the photo shows the person you are talking to. Scammers often use pictures taken from someone else's social media. A short video call before you meet settles the question far better than any badge.

ID and selfie checks: in some cases, and as an option

An ID check compares a photo ID document with a live selfie. On Elite Mature Mingle these checks are run by LEM Verify, an identity-verification provider, and they are not required for everyone. They can be required for some sign-ups, for example when someone registers through a VPN or when an account has been flagged.

Any member can also choose to buy an optional ID badge, which shows on their profile once they have passed the same kind of check. It is a useful signal that a real person stands behind the account. It says nothing about their career, their bank balance or whether they are single. The badge appears among the extras on the prices page.

What nobody checks

The site does not verify what members write about themselves. That includes job title, employer, income, property, education, age as stated and relationship status. The member terms themselves warn that profiles and interactions may not always be what they seem.

We would rather tell you this than borrow words like "vetted". Treat a profile as a person's own description of themselves.

Checks you can do yourself

You can confirm most of what matters without turning a date into an interview. Work through these over the first few weeks, roughly in this order:

1. Have a short video call before you meet. It confirms the face matches the photos.
2. Run a reverse image search on their photos, with a tool such as Google Lens or TinEye, to see whether the pictures belong to someone else.
3. Search their name with their claimed employer or town. People with real careers usually leave some trace. Many professions, including doctors, solicitors and financial advisers, also keep public registers.
4. Meet in a busy public place, travel independently, and tell a friend where you are.
5. Let time do its work. Introductions to friends, and stories that stay consistent, are worth more than any badge.

If you are worried about a partner's past behaviour, the police in the UK run official disclosure schemes. In England and Wales, the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme, often called Clare's Law, lets you ask whether a partner has a record of abuse; Scotland has the Disclosure Scheme for Domestic Abuse Scotland.

Who else can see profiles

Elite Mature Mingle shares one member database with partner sites in the same network, so some of the people you see, and some who see you, joined through another site. Each profile shows where its owner joined. How it works covers the network in more detail.

If something doesn't add up

Signs worth acting on: a profile that moves the conversation off the site very quickly, someone who can never video call, a story that changes, or any request for money, gift cards, cryptocurrency or help with an "investment". Report the profile from inside the members area or through the help centre, stop replying, and see our safety guide for where to report a scam in the UK, the US and Australia.

If you earn well or are known in your field, our guide to dating as a high earner looks at why you may be targeted and how to test someone's story politely.